Eat, Sleep, Play: Unfounded Worries in Motherhood

Yesterday was World Sleep Day, as a mother your usual concern is that you and your family are not getting enough, and the idea that other folks are getting ALL THE SLEEP kills you!

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In a previous life I was probably a sloth…

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Truth be told, when I was planning my return to work I couldn’t see a way to go back, how could I put a decent day at my desk in after a run of bad nights?  Knowing that sleep has a huge impact on my productivity and mental health and my job involves more than just saying ‘pass the damn coffee’ all day I couldn’t see how it would work.  But it does,  and I do.

This got me thinking about some of my unfounded worries and anxieties as a new mother.  Now that I have a rapidly-approaching-two-year- old (RATYO?) my anxieties about “what if…x,y,z” have calmed a lot.

They usually focused around three key issues, Eat, Sleep, Play (see what I did here?)

Eat

Weight gain and weaning… I drove myself to despair over Joss’ slow weight gain, when she started to fall off her line in the red book of wisdom I was told to bring her back to be weighed in two weeks.  I started to believe that I was somehow supposed to get her to eat more in those two weeks and meal times became awful for both of us, I’d obsess over her food intake.  I knew people said “food before one is just for fun” – ITS TRUE PEOPLE!! I didn’t believe this at the time, but eighteen months on Joss has a healthy and sensible appetite, still loves her fruit and veg and once I started to become much more patient we all started to enjoy mealtimes.  Most of my fears about weaning were unfounded too, hey look, she’s eating a meal of food like any regular human child, to me it was a revelation that baby led weaning existed, surely it was all about purees and spoon feeding?  See this muffin?  She didn’t really eat it, but she did mouth it and enjoy sharing a meal time with us, and that was more important than volume at that stage, lesson learned right there!

Sleep

You don’t need as much as you think you do.  Well I do, no really, I do.  In the early days once a routine was established about five months into our parenting journey I started to get a bit desperate about sleep, those what ifs? again, what if she wakes really frequently?  What is causing the disturbance?  Am I getting this routine thing wrong?  I started a sleep diary, we learned that Joss has a unique cycle every eight weeks moving from sleeping 10 hours straight to reducing that by an hour a night til we hit on a 4am wake up then increasing back to sleeping ten hours again.  Erm, how fascinating, but what would we do with this amazing data we had gathered?  Put it into a computer and make her sleep again?  It’s her cycle, we learned to live with it, it’s easier when you accept it and know that good days will follow bad again.

Play

The old will she won’t she walk soon?  Will she won’t she talk soon?  Is she getting the right kind of play?  Is it bad that she asks for Tombiliboos first thing in the morning and knows the names of most of the Cbeebies presenters like they’re our friends and family?  Again all unfounded worries.  All normal worries I hasten to add!

I guess this post is just a gentle reminder to me that phases are just that, they ebb and flow, and to anyone having a wobble, this too shall pass!

2 thoughts on “Eat, Sleep, Play: Unfounded Worries in Motherhood

  1. I have worried about all these things and more! We kept sleep diaries, milk diaries and nappy diaries in the first few weeks haha :-) I still worry about all of this with my daughter – sleeping was a major one as until recently she wouldn’t self settle when everyone else in the world seemed to have babies who slept through from 3 days old! But if I really stop and think about it she’s happy and healthy and loved whether she has eats all her peas or sleeps in her own bed… or not :-)

  2. Gwenn is a funny one when it comes to food but I’ve always worked on the basis that she wouldn’t consciously starve herself, so if she won’t eat I try not to dwell. I also haven’t had her weighed since her 1st birthday and not knowing whether she is under/overweight has made it easier (although I’m not suggesting this approach would work for everyone).

    xx

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